Self Confidence & Social Media

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We have all heard this quote above. I’m sure many of us have told someone or been told this quote to ourselves, and it is so freaking true! Is there ever a circumstance where comparing yourself to someone else brings to a sense of joy or a feeling of comfort? I know it doesn’t for me. Back in the day we would compare ourselves to our friends thinking “there clothes are so much cuter than mine” or ” she is so much prettier than I am” Now a days we are stilling having those same feelings except now social media has come into play, and we have these thoughts (and much more) about we’e never even met. Why do we let strangers faces on a phone or computer screen dictate our self worth or how we feel about our lives? Now don’t get me wrong I think social media has a lot of pros to it, but we must admit that it has very  much affected how we see ourselves. Would we still feel this way if social media wasn’t around or as relevant? (lolz! imagine that.)

I have always been the type of person who thought self confidence and self worth were so important. I’d tell my friends that they just needed to be more confident in themselves. Even today I tell my husband he needs to have more confidence in himself and not stress out about what other people think. However, recently I needed to be reminded about what I said so passionately to other people. I let social media and strangers affect my sense of self worth to the point of crying unable to control my emotions.  I was also having one of those days where I didn’t like any of my clothes and my makeup looked like crap (yeah, we know how much fun those days are *major eye roll*) Just a bunch of little things that just kept adding up. How did I get to this point? Follower count. Instagram follower counts.

Just typing that makes me rather annoyed with myself, but I am the type of person who believes my feelings are valid and the reasoning for them are valid. Anyways, I was having one of those days where I wasn’t feeling very confident in myself (we all have those days) and I had been losing Instagram followers in the dozens (40+ in 2 days) and I was seeing everyone else on my feed garnering all these likes and comments, “what was I doing wrong?” I wondered. That was a first mistake making it personal. I didn’t know why it affected me so much, but it  did. It affected me to the point of my husband having to sit with me while I cried and cried. Why am I not good enough? I thought my content was good, I thought my pictures looked nice? What was I doing wrong? But more importantly why was I letting a social media platform affect me so much?!

In today’s age comparison is so hugely relevant and social media is no exception. In fact it seems to be the place where comparison is most evident. What started out as a fun hobby for me was starting to cause me emotional pain all because I was comparing myself to others.  I let number on someone else’s page affect my personal thoughts about myself. The thing is in the grand scheme of things follower count is so minuet. Yes these people may have great photos on their Instagram, they may have a lot of followers, and they may portray their lives as being put together, but put the camera down and log out of social media how great is their lives? how happy, confident, and content are they? We are comparing ourselves to people who we truly know very minimal about.

So how can we having strong self confidence in a world of social media? I can’t speak for everybody, but I can speak for myself and how I am going to improve my confidence and feelings of self worth towards myself. I am going to remind myself that a social media page doesn’t show every detail of a person. In reality social media can be very very vague (depending on what people chose to share). I remind myself that these people who might be “popular” on Instagram might be struggling behind the scenes. Yes they might be happy at times, but I’m sure like everybody else they have problems. We all have things we’d like to change whether it be about our lives or how we look, and we need to remember that every one has these thoughts. Everyone.

Now maybe instead of having these thoughts and comparing ourselves to others we can fill our thoughts with more affirming ideas about ourselves. We all have things we are good at: being a good friend, listening, doing makeup, being artistic, helping others. I guarantee if we had someone else say what they thought about us they would list so much more positive than negative (if they list more negative they aren’t your friend and you need to say peace out, girl scout!) Why don’t we start thinking of ourselves more positively? Let’s have more self confidence in ourselves. Yes I am aware of how much easier said than done this is, but you’d be amazed at how much one positive affirmation to yourself everyday can help build up your self confidence. Write down a positive attributes about yourself and write them down or put them up around your room or house. Enjoy social media, but remember that in the grand scheme of things it is such a minuet part of life.

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If you are highly involved in social media here is another thing I am choosing to remind myself which is “to honor your pace” You will get to where you  want to get to. You can even exceed past your goals, but you need to accept the fact that it will take time. You will hit bumps in the road. You will hit snags and set backs, but you’ll get to your goal. Honor you pace accept that fact that hard work takes time. If you believe in yourself that is such a huge huge step in the right direction. Everyone achieves their goals and reaches their dreams in their own time and you and I will as well.

How has social media affected you whether it’s good or bad?

I know this was a different post compared to what I typically do (beauty and fashion), so if you read this far I really appreciate you reading and listening to my thoughts. I think writing is very therapeutic, and I am sure there are other people who have felt how I did, so I wanted to share those feelings. So again thank you for reading! If you would like me to share my thoughts on other subjects just let me know! xx

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