Sunday Spill

Hello,
I wanted to start a new series I guess you could call it that I will be titling Sunday Spill. Basically I will be talking about things I have had on my mind and sharing my thoughts and opinions about things. Today I wanted to kick this idea off by talking about pressures I have placed on myself when it comes to blogging and creating content. If there are other subjects you’d like me to cover let me know. Also, these are going to be very rambly and probably not very organized, so there’s your warning!

Alright,  I feel like I say this a lot, but once again it has been a minute since I have posted something and firstly I wanna address how guilty that makes me feel because a large part of me feels this pressure to consistently put up content. However, I am also realistic in the fact that I can’t continuously put out well constructed content week after week. Can other people do that yes absolutely, but me personally I can’t. I am trying to get to a place where I don’t put pressure on myself when it comes to this blog. I created this platform to share things and create post I am happy with and maybe I will put together multiple blog post I am happy with 4 times in one week and maybe I won’t post any blog posts the next week. I know one of the biggest answers to the question “how do I become a successful blogger?” is “be consistent and scheduled” I get why it’s important, but at the same time I personally just can’t follow it and at the moment I am viewing this as quality over quantity. I would rather have 3-4 great post put out in the span of a month then 10+ okayish ones I put out because I felt like I had to. This pressure thing is something I have struggled with a lot a very recently it has been really effecting me, so I am trying to rewire my thoughts if that is the right way to put it, and remember that I am the creator of this blog and I post and share what I chose to. I feel like I just majorly rambled that whole thing, so hopefully it makes sense what I am trying to say. Does anybody else feel this way?
Another thing that has been on my mind A LOT, and something I am working on yet struggling with is jealousy and envy of other bloggers and influencers. I don’t like to use those words, but 100% truth it is exactly how I feel, and I did speak about this in a few post back about self confidence and social media, but I am still going to talk about it here because 1) it is something I am still struggling with and trying to manage and 2) whether anybody will admit it or not I know I am not the only one who feels this way. I know I stated in previously in this post that I created this blog to share things that I loved and create content that I am happy with, and yes that is true, but I would be lying if I said I never had those moments where I think “imagine if this was my job! what a dream that would be” (yes I do realize a lot of work goes into a career like this and that it’s not just cool instagram photos and free things) I am just being real and saying I have had thoughts like that and I still do. I see all these influencers and bloggers mainly on Instagram getting all these amazing products sent to them, wearing these hella cute clothes and I want that.  I would love to have a blog that thousands heck I would be happy with hundreds of people came to visit for recommendations, and simply because they love it.  Yet I need to be realistic in the fact that that may never happen, but that doesn’t mean I can’t create great content that I am happy with. I shouldn’t slack on my work just because it reaches a small audience. I don’t think it is wrong to have the goal of wanting to be a big time blogger, but at the same time I need to be realistic and focus on what I have right now, and not let other peoples stats effect me. Once again asking basically the same question I did previously: is this something you can relate to?

I am not entirely sure how to close this, and there are other things I want to talk about, but I don’t wanna make this a super long post, but it probably already is. Anyways I just wanna share that I want to start becoming more open on here and sharing things other then just makeup I am loving or clothes I bought. I want to also use this space to talk about things that are on my mind, and I hope it connect well with you guys. As I have mentioned if there is something you’d like me to talk about let me know or if you wanna have a conversation with me leave a comment. If you read this far you are wonderful that thanks for taking the time out of your day to read this

Hope you enjoyed!

Self Confidence & Social Media

Self Confidence & Social Media

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We have all heard this quote above. I’m sure many of us have told someone or been told this quote to ourselves, and it is so freaking true! Is there ever a circumstance where comparing yourself to someone else brings to a sense of joy or a feeling of comfort? I know it doesn’t for me. Back in the day we would compare ourselves to our friends thinking “there clothes are so much cuter than mine” or ” she is so much prettier than I am” Now a days we are stilling having those same feelings except now social media has come into play, and we have these thoughts (and much more) about we’e never even met. Why do we let strangers faces on a phone or computer screen dictate our self worth or how we feel about our lives? Now don’t get me wrong I think social media has a lot of pros to it, but we must admit that it has very  much affected how we see ourselves. Would we still feel this way if social media wasn’t around or as relevant? (lolz! imagine that.)

I have always been the type of person who thought self confidence and self worth were so important. I’d tell my friends that they just needed to be more confident in themselves. Even today I tell my husband he needs to have more confidence in himself and not stress out about what other people think. However, recently I needed to be reminded about what I said so passionately to other people. I let social media and strangers affect my sense of self worth to the point of crying unable to control my emotions.  I was also having one of those days where I didn’t like any of my clothes and my makeup looked like crap (yeah, we know how much fun those days are *major eye roll*) Just a bunch of little things that just kept adding up. How did I get to this point? Follower count. Instagram follower counts.

Just typing that makes me rather annoyed with myself, but I am the type of person who believes my feelings are valid and the reasoning for them are valid. Anyways, I was having one of those days where I wasn’t feeling very confident in myself (we all have those days) and I had been losing Instagram followers in the dozens (40+ in 2 days) and I was seeing everyone else on my feed garnering all these likes and comments, “what was I doing wrong?” I wondered. That was a first mistake making it personal. I didn’t know why it affected me so much, but it  did. It affected me to the point of my husband having to sit with me while I cried and cried. Why am I not good enough? I thought my content was good, I thought my pictures looked nice? What was I doing wrong? But more importantly why was I letting a social media platform affect me so much?!

In today’s age comparison is so hugely relevant and social media is no exception. In fact it seems to be the place where comparison is most evident. What started out as a fun hobby for me was starting to cause me emotional pain all because I was comparing myself to others.  I let number on someone else’s page affect my personal thoughts about myself. The thing is in the grand scheme of things follower count is so minuet. Yes these people may have great photos on their Instagram, they may have a lot of followers, and they may portray their lives as being put together, but put the camera down and log out of social media how great is their lives? how happy, confident, and content are they? We are comparing ourselves to people who we truly know very minimal about.

So how can we having strong self confidence in a world of social media? I can’t speak for everybody, but I can speak for myself and how I am going to improve my confidence and feelings of self worth towards myself. I am going to remind myself that a social media page doesn’t show every detail of a person. In reality social media can be very very vague (depending on what people chose to share). I remind myself that these people who might be “popular” on Instagram might be struggling behind the scenes. Yes they might be happy at times, but I’m sure like everybody else they have problems. We all have things we’d like to change whether it be about our lives or how we look, and we need to remember that every one has these thoughts. Everyone.

Now maybe instead of having these thoughts and comparing ourselves to others we can fill our thoughts with more affirming ideas about ourselves. We all have things we are good at: being a good friend, listening, doing makeup, being artistic, helping others. I guarantee if we had someone else say what they thought about us they would list so much more positive than negative (if they list more negative they aren’t your friend and you need to say peace out, girl scout!) Why don’t we start thinking of ourselves more positively? Let’s have more self confidence in ourselves. Yes I am aware of how much easier said than done this is, but you’d be amazed at how much one positive affirmation to yourself everyday can help build up your self confidence. Write down a positive attributes about yourself and write them down or put them up around your room or house. Enjoy social media, but remember that in the grand scheme of things it is such a minuet part of life.

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If you are highly involved in social media here is another thing I am choosing to remind myself which is “to honor your pace” You will get to where you  want to get to. You can even exceed past your goals, but you need to accept the fact that it will take time. You will hit bumps in the road. You will hit snags and set backs, but you’ll get to your goal. Honor you pace accept that fact that hard work takes time. If you believe in yourself that is such a huge huge step in the right direction. Everyone achieves their goals and reaches their dreams in their own time and you and I will as well.

How has social media affected you whether it’s good or bad?

I know this was a different post compared to what I typically do (beauty and fashion), so if you read this far I really appreciate you reading and listening to my thoughts. I think writing is very therapeutic, and I am sure there are other people who have felt how I did, so I wanted to share those feelings. So again thank you for reading! If you would like me to share my thoughts on other subjects just let me know! xx